Who I Am Not: Enhancing Self-Clarity through Cultivating Not-Me Identities
研究独立工作者如何通过识别和否定不符合自我的角色元素，培养“非我”身份来增强自我清晰度，并发现两种路径：设定边界增强清晰度，或压抑身份导致情感压力。
How do people develop and leverage self-definitions of who and what they are not, or their “not-me” identities, to navigate their work lives? In contrast to dominant portrayals of not-me identities as negative or oppositional, we explore how they can serve as resources in identity work. Drawing on a grounded theory study of 80 interviews with independent workers and clients, we identify a process we call “identity filtering.” Through this process, individuals identify and disconfirm misaligned role or relational elements, cultivating not-me identity repertoires that serve as reference points for how they engage in and shape their role-relationships. We identify two distinct pathways: some individuals enact their not-me identities through setting boundaries and role screening, which in turn enhance their self-clarity. Others suppress their not-me identities by engaging in enmeshment, which generates emotional strain. These diverging paths emerge through distinct underlying mechanisms: self-worth and desire for control both enable enactment, while adaptability constrains it. By reconceptualizing not-me identities as resources, this study advances identity theory and deepens understanding of how (independent) workers navigate fluid role-relationships and uncertainty in contemporary work.